Most men are ‘invisible’ on dating apps – here’s how to stand out: psychologist

It’s a man’s world – except for dating apps.

A psychologist says the “vast majority” of men are “invisible” when pursuing an online romance, with women only considering a small number of men as potential partners.

Dr. Orion Taraban made the claim on the popular CEO Diary podcast before giving his advice on how guys can step up to become fitter.

“Most men are wallpaper, and the world doesn’t treat men very well when they don’t want anything from them,” Taraban said, saying young men were at a particular disadvantage.

“It’s really hard to be young, you don’t have what women want or need or the most experienced men, and you’re generally very available – and unfortunately we’ve seen that,” based in California. added the doctor. “Young people have a very high mortality rate.”

Taraban claimed that women were more likely to swipe men who appeared to have money or a specific skill — selling points more commonly attributed to older men.

Still, Taraban — author of the new book “The Value of Others: Understanding the Relationship Economy to Get (and Keep) More of What You Want in the Sex Market” — offered some advice to aspiring guys in love. a lady

“I think men can dress better, they can take care of their fitness, for some men it’s as basic as hygiene,” he said, adding that women were also attracted to good-looking guys on apps.

The psychologist said that men should splash some cash on some fashionable clothes to better attract attention and boost their confidence.

One of the best things men can do is just spend a thousand or two thousand dollars to get, like, two or three really good outfits; you can just go through them when you’re dating,” Taraban said.

“If you’re the best dressed person in the room, you’ll get a free point,” claimed the expert. “Men just need to put on some clothes and get a better haircut, and they refuse to do that for whatever reason.”

For those guys who may not be genetically blessed, the psychologist said it was important to appeal to a woman’s mind.

He said the sexes have “very different” communication styles — and men need to learn how to talk on a woman’s wavelength.

“If you can learn how to talk to women in a way that she listens and responds to, you’ll be able to do all kinds of things and have all kinds of relationships,” he said.

“It’s a lot about liveliness – female communication is very different from male communication.”